LOVE LUST LIFE SERIES: THE BEGINNING

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You know that moment you meet someone-you notice each others’ differences but can’t help but fall for one another anyway?

Different backgrounds, different upbringing, different ways of life, different styles-despite the differences, there is a magnificent magnetism that can not be ignored. Amongst it all, the time you’ve spent together, minutes, hours, days, weeks, makes no difference. It’s as if you’ve known this person your entire life and the whole “honeymoon” phase doesn’t exist. You go from 0-60 in a magnitude of seconds.

Tell me-what was it like falling for someone? Do you overcome your differences? Was it rough in the beginning or smooth sailing? I’d love to hear your stories-good and bad endings.

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I’d like to introduce the newest mini-series. It tells a story that I’d like for you to interpret yourself. At the end of it all, I’ll give you my thought-process behind this shoot.

Photography by Sabrina Noel Hill Photography

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Anonymous

Hey! I’m new to your blog and absolutely love it!

I fell hard for someone in the spring, but it was not smooth sailing. I had a hard time believing it, a hard time letting myself fall, letting myself trust. Over the summer, though, I spent weeks on end with him. It turns out that he and I are insanely alike, and I’ve never met anyone I could be so ME with.

We are still very much in love and happy together. But I don’t wanna jinx anything… ;)

http://www.profreshstyle.com Profresh Style

Well, welcome! :)

It’s great to hear you both fell for each other in the circumstance of your doubts. I was there in the beginning too but sometimes, your heart has to win over your head.

Raya_bozhkova

I am absolutely loving this outfit!:)))
http://twitter.com/jezebel538 jessica

Love this for an idea of a mini series, fabulous! Cant wait to hear the idea behind it!

http://www.profreshstyle.com Profresh Style

I’m glad you’re excited to see the end too! :)

http://twitter.com/ashemischief Ashe Mischief

Oooh. The Beau & I have had 6 years off and on together. And while we’re both in it for good now, I remember how hard that period was. I remember the moment I “noticed” him and the way we both looked at each other with our heads cocked a bit on Halloween night. I remember always trying to call it off– he liked action films & romance, I liked foreign films & art house. He liked video games and D&D, I liked shopping. We both liked the same bar and having sex with each other… I NEVER thought it would work, but it has, somehow.

Can’t wait to see how this series moves along, and what a great photoshoot!

http://www.profreshstyle.com Profresh Style

Isn’t it crazy how things just work? Do you guys disagree on big things like family, religion, lifestyles, etc? I’d love to hear you weigh in! ANd yes, I can’t wait til you guys see the turnout!

http://www.withering-rose.net Ria Michelle

I love your skirt. I think every guy I’ve ever dated has had a different background and upbringing than me. Same thing with my current boyfriend of two years, people may look at us and think how are those two together but we work even though we may have different interests, one of our common interests is each other.

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Thanks mama<3.

I think differences are attractive and creates a chemistry that's fiery and exciting. But at the end of the day, if the important things aren't in agreement than the lasting value to the relationship is usually zilch. Not speaking about yours, but just relationships in general. And it's great that the common interest is one another. But do you ever feel that the things you don't agree upon are things that you mentally can't compromise on?

http://twitter.com/gritandglamour Grit and Glamour

You know what they say…opposites attract. But they rarely last. All my “opposite” partners have always ended up being disasters. That 0-60 is true…it’s called chemistry. But after you settle into a relationship, when you’re neat and your partner is a slob, when you’re highly social and your partner is not, when you like a glass of wine and your partner does not drink, it never works. Those things you are “overcoming” in the beginning? They’re HUGE RED FLAGS! Have fun. Take your time. Usually, if you don’t make any major life commitments together too early, you come out unscathed.

♥ V
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twitter: @gritandglamour

http://www.profreshstyle.com Profresh Style

I see what your saying V but I feel like those things are so frivolous compared to bigger picture things like the importance of family, the agreement on lifestyles (religion, commitment, etc) among others. I went through those with my ex but all the small things like you mentioned above weren’t nearly as important as the commitment issues and the communication problems. I feel like the small things can be worked on but the bigger things are choices that normally can not be compromised.

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http://beautifully-invisible.blogspot.com/ Beautifully Invisible

You know, it’s hard for me to answer this right now (for the same reasons I last commented on a prior LOVE LUST LIFE Series post). Sometimes when you are still picking up the pieces of a broken heart it’s difficult to think objectively about ANY of your past relationships.

What I can say is this: prior to my most recent relationship, NONE of my former beau’s meshed with me on a cultural level. I don’t mean culture, as in, liking the the theater, art, opera or such. I mean culture, as in familial background. I am a first generation American, and he was the first person I dated who shared that background. In some ways that especially helped us go from 0 – 60 because we immediately connected on so many deeper levels than I have with past beau’s.

Ultimately, though, it doesn’t matter if you pass 0 – 60 from GO or get there slow and steady. You have to love and respect one another, because without that you have nothing.

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Oh yes love, I definitely remember that. Love and respect is key, I definitely agree. Thank you for continuing to share with me. It makes me feel so special that you’d open up with me. <3

http://thejerseygem.blogspot.com Meg McCarthy

Beautiful photos! The third one is definitely a favourite, you look so happy and calm and serene! Just been browsing through your blog and it’s become a quick favourite of mine. Your personality really shines through in your photos and your videos (which are so so witty). I would definitely say you have a Lust For Life indeed!
I would say be cautious about your new relationship, but not too cautious that you loose your fun out of it! :)
xoxo
Meg

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What a great response Meg<3. Being cautious is important just as long as I'm not looking to deep into it you know. But thank you for all your kind words. I'm glad you're enjoying my blog!! Stay tuned for 2011!

http://dearwinnie.com Chelsea Rae

Guys generally fall into four categories with me and those categories are determined at two different stages. Are you still following me?

STAGE 1: The Meeting
This stage is sort of like a “Keep” and “Trash” stage. If we have a really great report, and I can honestly say I enjoyed the other person’s company then they go into the “Keep” file and if I find them boring and our interactions lackluster, the guy goes into the “Trash” file. This has nothing to do with him as a good person, but if you find someone dull, that’s never a good sign.

STAGE 2: The Spark
I’m not sure if, “The Spark” actually exists, but there is a such thing as sexual attracting. In Stage 2, the guys that were filed in “Keep” come out to play and then we see if I we have a sexual connection. Do I find him physically attractive? Do I want to kiss him? Have I kissed him? How was the kiss? After this evaluation, guys are separated into Friends or More. The Friends are amazing guys, but I’m just never going to date or have a physical relationship with them. The More guys are just what they sound like…MORE!

Of course, there are those rare occasions when I meet a guy who I can’t stand communicating with but he’s absolutely, heartbreakingly gorgeous and I can’t help but to let him skip straight to the More category because who’s going to turn down Johnny Depp no matter how dense he is, but that never turns out to be some spectacular Cinderella story. And, I never completely discount the guys who I trash because everyone has off days and second chances are around for a reason, right?

p.s. I’d tell stories, but none are devastatingly romantic, yet!
p.p.s. That first picture would make Tyra overjoyed. You’re smizing like it’s your job and you look like the essence of sexy!

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Ahh, once again Chelsea, awesome comment! And yes, I completely agree with that process. It’s so futile to progressing in the dating world. I’m not sure why we do it because even when we characterize men, as you’d said, they never stay in those categories. HAHA. Oh how we make ourselves so complicated!

And girl, I try to make Tyra proud everyday! LOL

http://red-roses-too.blogspot.com/ G

Oooh this is such an intriguing post! Both of my two boyfriends were very different from me I guess. The first I met at school and came from a Hindu family. This wasn’t a problem at first, and we got along so well, we had lots of similar interests which I think was really important, but his family didn’t like me being around (because I wasn’t Hindu) and it ended up causing a rift between us. The second – we had a similar background but just very different personalities and views on commitment, and just weren’t compatible, even though we tried very hard!

This might sound very depressing, but it’s not meant to be! I think the key, as in all relationships really, is compromise and trying to understand where the other person is coming from. Being from different backgrounds or different anything really doesn’t matter if you can do that successfully – I’m still friends with the first guy, and with both of them, I had amazing moments that I think make it all worth while. I don’t regret a thing, I’d say go for it, but if anything too different is a dealbreaker for you (or them), then exercise caution.

I’d also say (apologies for such a long post – I told you it intrigued me!) that the differences don’t matter one bit compared to if you have that ‘spark’ with a person, and can talk to them for hours :)
xx

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Great comment G! Thank you for opening up and giving great examples. I agree that the differences don’t matter as long as you both know you’re willing to work at it. It’s hard to say whether or not something is meant to be if the time is not given. I’m so glad this post intrigued you! I hope you follow this series<3

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